Hey there!
Just wrote a massive reply to this thread and my computer restarted itself and it lost it! I love technology...
Righty, I had a go at doing what you're trying to do, and managed to get a kit from Nissan, but I couldn't work out how to do it.
I've found the two pins you refer to, and obviously its just expecting some form of signal on them pins to cause it to open/close the doors... i'm just not sure what that signal is!
Eventually I ended up giving up and getting a full alarm system fitted by an auto-electrician but if I remember rightly, even he struggled and ended up fitting his own unit to operate the door motors!
Technically, If you found out what the unit is expecting on them two pins, you could make something to replicate that signal and therefore open/close the doors as you need... its just the job of trying to work out what the signal is.
Im not sure how customisable that maplin kit is, but at worst you could make/ask someone to make a microcontroller to send out the right signal
The central locking unit is a white box underneath the steering column. If you sit upside down with your legs in the air, where your head should be, (mind your head on the pedals) you should see it, I think its to the fusebox side of the steering wheel.